Sex toys for anal play – guide to choose the right one

How to choose the right anal sex toy

Many people are curious about trying anal sex, but if you’re new to it, it can feel overwhelming to choose from the wide range of anal plugs, dildos, and vibrators available. To find the toy that suits you best, start by thinking about what type of anal play you want to explore – and in what context you plan to use the toy.

Anal Plugs – how to choose the right one

Do you want anal stimulation as a complement to other kinds of sex, or should anal play be the main focus? For beginners, and for anyone who wants anal pleasure alongside other types of stimulation, an anal plug is often a great first choice.

Anal plugs come in many different sizes. If you’re unsure where to start, an anal plug kit can be a smart solution. These kits include multiple sizes, allowing you to begin with the smallest and gradually explore larger options at your own pace.

Choosing Shape, Colour and Material

It’s not only the size that varies. Anal plugs also come in different shapes and materials, such as silicone, metal, or glass. Some people prioritise function and comfort, while others want a plug that is visually appealing as well. If aesthetics matter to you, there are anal plugs available in bright colours or designs – anal plugs with sparkling stones for an extra decorative touch.

Steel Anal Plugs

At RFSU, you can also find steel anal plugs, which offer a different type of stimulation compared to plugs made from silicone or other softer materials. Steel plugs can be cooled or warmed, allowing you to enhance the experience with temperature play and add a completely new dimension of pleasure.

For those who enjoy a sense of pressure and expansion, there are also inflatable anal plugs that can be filled with air and adjusted to the size that feels best for you.

Anal Dildos for Penetration

All anal plugs should have a wide base to prevent them from slipping too far into the body. Plugs with a smaller stop function — such as those with decorative stones at the bottom — require extra care to ensure they are not pushed in too firmly.

If what you are primarily looking for is a toy for penetrating someone, or for being penetrated yourself, then an anal plug is not the right choice. In that case, an anal dildo is the better option.

It is a common misconception that women can’t enjoy anal sex. Hans Olsson, an expert at RFSU, explains that the conditions for enjoying anal sex are more about the person and the relationship and how the interaction works during sex.

“Men, women, non-binary – we all have nerve endings there. Everyone has the ability to enjoy anal sex. The difference is that men have a prostate, and many men enjoy stimulating it. You could say that men have a heightened ability to enjoy anal sex. At the same time, Hans Olsson emphasizes, we are all different and like different things.

Hans feels that the negative debate about anal sex has done women a disservice.

“Women are made into passive recipients, who don’t have their own pleasure-driven sexuality that they want to investigate and explore. It’s a rather traditional and somewhat old-fashioned view of sexuality,” says Hans.

Which anal dildo should I choose?

An anal dildo is ideal if you want to move the toy in and out and keep penetration as the main focus. Anal dildos are often longer than anal plugs and specifically designed for anal sex. They come in many variations — from textured anal dildos to curved models of anal dildos that provide extra prostate stimulation — allowing you to choose the design that best suits your body and preferences.

There are also strap-ons for pegging for those who want to penetrate their partner anally in a new way. If you’re looking for a dildo to use on your own, a suction cup dildo is an excellent option. These can be attached to any smooth surface — perfect for exploring anal play hands-free.

Lubricants for Anal Dildos

When it comes to anal sex, choosing the right lubricant is essential since the anus does not produce natural moisture. A good lubricant reduces friction, increases comfort and helps the body relax. Two lubricants that work particularly well with anal dildos are Velvet Lube and Magic Lube. Both provide a smooth, long-lasting glide that doesn’t need to be reapplied as often.

• Velvet Lube – a 100% silicone-based lubricant with an extra long-lasting glide.

• Magic Lube – a soft, creamy hybrid lubricant with long-lasting lubrication.

Anal Vibrators for Powerful Stimulation

An anal vibrator is a great choice if you enjoy strong stimulation and want vibrations to add an extra layer of pleasure during anal play. Anal vibrators come in many different shapes and designs to suit various bodies and levels of experience. Options range from simple vibrating anal plugs to more advanced vibrators specifically designed for prostate stimulation.

If your most sensitive area is the perineum, there are vibrators designed to stimulate exactly there.

Or why not let your partner take control of your pleasure with a remote-controlled vibrator, giving you powerful orgasms without you having to do a thing?

Anal beads for intense pleasure

Anal beads are ideal if you enjoy the sensation of the anus opening and closing. They consist of several beads in different sizes attached to a string or a rod. The beads are often smaller at the tip and gradually increase in size toward the base.

When you slowly pull the beads out one by one, the anus is stimulated as it alternately tightens and relaxes — a rhythm that can intensify pleasure. For many people, using anal beads during orgasm can make the climax feel stronger and more intense.

Anal beads can be used both alone and with a partner. For solo play, there are also convenient versions with a suction base, allowing you to attach them to a smooth surface.

Clean and stimulation with an anal douche

An anal douche is used to flush water into the rectum before anal sex and can help you feel cleaner and more relaxed. There are simple anal douches designed solely for rinsing, as well as models with multiple nozzles that can also provide light stimulation. Regardless of the type you choose, it’s important to always apply lubricant before inserting the anal douche.

RFSU Velvet Lube works well thanks to its long-lasting, silky glide, and RFSU Magic Lube is a good alternative if you prefer a softer, more nourishing glide during insertion.

Also keep in mind not to douche too frequently, as doing so can affect the natural bacterial balance in the intestines.

5 tips: How to use sex toys for the anus

1. Think about what you want. Should anal sex be a complement to other sex, or should it be the main act itself? For those who want anal stimulation while having other sex, an anal plug is a good choice. For those who like anal sex to be the focus, an anal dildo works better.
2. Are you used to anal sex or not? If you are used to anal sex, you may want to choose an anal dildo, while a smaller butt plug may be a good choice for the beginner.
3. Are you looking for a product that is specially adapted for the prostate? In that case, it is an anal vibrator you should choose for maximum stimulation. There are also anal dildos with a special bend that makes them easier to access the prostate.
4. Are you going to use the toy alone or together with others? For those who want to have their hands free when masturbating, there are both anal balls and anal dildos with suction cups.
5. Always use lube, no matter which sex toy you choose. The anus does not produce its own moisture, so lubricant is a must. It is also important to clean your toys after each use. Use soap and warm water or a sex toy cleaning spray.